"I think you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle their money." So how do you begin talking about the topic of money without damaging what otherwise may be a deeply fulfilling relationship? Think carefully as you discuss money issues with your partner to make sure there isn't a larger problem at the core.
Be honest with yourself about how you personally feel about money.
To understand her attitude, it is necessary to know her history.
Chrissie’s first husband, Pete, could have been a poster child for “financially irresponsible men.” Not long after their wedding, Pete lost his job.
Love may make the world go ‘round, but disagreements over money can stop even the best relationship dead in its tracks.
My research shows that 7 out of 10 couples report that money causes tension in their relationship.
Once you’ve spent some time getting a better feel of how they view the small stuff, gradually increase the depth and scope of the conversation topics to things like big purchases, lifestyles, saving and retirement.
Maybe talk about how your family viewed money or what you’d do if you had a million dollars.
Ignoring the topic would have been the easy way out for Pam and Larry, who met on Senior People and now are married.
Dave talks about the importance of discussing money before getting married.
But what about one step before that: How do you talk about it when you’re still dating?
Money is a heavy topic, so give yourself some time to get deeper into the courtship.
Talk about whether or not going to dinner tonight fits within your budget, for example.